There is a secret that is fully disclosed and that is the secret of domestic/intimate partner violence. It's as plain as the nose on your face but people are seemingly blind to it. This secret manifests itself when in conversations with victims and she/he discloses a little tidbit that something is off. This secret uncovers itself with the abusive partner that seems too good for words, that only has his or her partner's best interest in mind. This secret uncovers itself when the abused partner cannot even find solace with their own family or friends that constantly takes up for the abuser wishing that they had a mate that cared for them like the mate of the abused. They have no ideal.
I remember when I was at a social setting with the pastor's wife of the church my ex-husband and I belonged too and I disclosed what was happening to me in my marriage. She exclaimed that there was no way -she could not believe it that my then husband was treating me that way. After all he was so good looking and soft-spoken (her words) and such a good Christian. There was no way this was happening to me. She said (again her words) that I must be misreading something. He would never do that to me. Huh-I thought. WTH was my second thought. Is she blind, do my words just bounce off of her? Isn't my true emotions showing or does she even care? How can you share a secret with someone that just doesn't really get it. The news special link above is worth watching.